Singles Events for the 40s & 50s: What to Expect and Where to Start
WONDERING IF A SINGLES EVENT IS STILL FOR YOU?
If you’re in your 40s or 50s, you might picture a singles event as a room full of people in their twenties, or wonder whether you’ll be the oldest person there.
That’s a fair question. The age range can make a real difference to how comfortable an event feels. DEIGHT is for singles over 30, with events designed around different age groups so you can choose a setting that feels right for you.
This isn’t about putting people in boxes. It’s about making it easier to spend time with people who may be at a similar stage of life, with more in common than simply being single.
Across the Midlands (including Nottingham, Birmingham, Leicester, Coventry and Derby) DEIGHT offers social events for singles that bring people together face-to-face. No forced one-to-one dates. No need to arrive with a plan. Just a welcoming setting where conversation can happen naturally.
CHOOSE AN AGE-BANDED EVENT THAT FEELS RIGHT
A clearly stated age range takes away some of the guesswork. Instead of turning up and hoping the room suits you, you can check the event listing first and decide whether that group feels like a good fit.
The current age groups include the 30s, 40s and 50s+. Some events are for a single age band; others welcome a broader mix. The range varies by event, so always check the listing before you book.
That choice matters if you’ve been putting off events for singles because you assume they’re aimed at a younger crowd. You can start with a mixer specifically listed for the 40s and 50s, or choose a broader group if that feels more natural to you.
And if you’ve had enough of dating app fatigue, an offline event offers a different way to meet single people: in person, over a shared evening, without beginning with a profile or a stream of messages.
WHAT HAPPENS AT A DEIGHT SOCIAL?
A DEIGHT Social is a public event open to guests and members. You don’t need membership to attend. The focus is on relaxed conversation in a considered social setting, not speed dating or a series of compulsory one-to-one introductions.
You can settle in, chat at your own pace and take part in the evening as it unfolds. A host helps guide the experience, while the group setting gives conversations room to start naturally.
DEIGHT’s programme includes Midweek and Friday Lounge Socials and Members Mixers, Saturday Premium Experiences, and Sunday Reset Socials. The formats and availability vary: not every type of event runs in every city or at all times. Check the events calendar to see what’s currently listed.
A one-off public DEIGHT Social Event Pass is £20. Some Saturday Premium Experiences and Sunday Reset Socials may be priced differently, so check the event details for the relevant price.
SEE THE CURRENT 40s & 50s EVENTS
Here are the confirmed upcoming Friday Singles Social Mixers across the Midlands:
- Leicester, Friday 30 October 2026: Ages 30s, 40s and 50s, 7:30pm–10:00pm at The Exchange Bar, Leicester. £20.
- Birmingham, Friday 6 November 2026: Ages 30s, 40s and 50s, 7:30pm–10:30pm at The Cosy Club, Bennetts Hill, Birmingham. £20.
- Nottingham, Friday 13 November 2026: Ages 40s and 50s, 7:30pm–10:00pm at Slug & Lettuce, Market Square, Nottingham. £20.
- Coventry, Friday 20 November 2026: Ages 40s and 50s+, venue to be confirmed. £20.
- Derby, Friday 27 November 2026: Ages 40s and 50s, 7:30pm–10:00pm, venue to be confirmed. £20.
For Coventry and Derby, check the events calendar for ticket availability, venue confirmations and any updates. The listings are also the best place to check the age range, venue and details before making plans.
If you’re searching for singles mixers near me, these listings give you a starting point across Nottingham, Birmingham, Leicester, Coventry and Derby. Coventry is DEIGHT’s newest city, while the wider programme offers a choice of singles events in the Midlands. Pick the location and age group that suit you; there’s no need to travel further or choose an event just because it’s the next one on the calendar.
COMING ON YOUR OWN? THAT’S FINE.
You don’t need to bring a friend or arrive already knowing someone. A singles social is a place where people come to meet others, so joining on your own is a straightforward option.
There’s no need to prepare a pitch or make every conversation count. Start with a simple hello. Ask what brought someone along, or talk about the venue, the evening or something you both notice. You can move between conversations and take a breather when you want one.
A first event doesn’t have to be a big decision. Think of it as trying a different kind of evening: meet some new people, enjoy the atmosphere and see how the format feels to you. You can come casually, without assuming what the outcome should be.
PUBLIC SOCIAL OR MEMBERS’ SOCIAL? KNOW THE DIFFERENCE
DEIGHT Socials are public events, open to guests and members. Members’ Socials are private events for approved members. Examples being developed include private dinners, cocktail parties and drinks, wine tastings, mixers, brunches, Sunday socials, activities and experiences, adventure weekends and seasonal events. These are examples of the kinds of experiences being built, not a guaranteed schedule.
Membership is free to apply for and free to join once approved. Every application is personally reviewed. There’s no subscription or monthly membership fee. Approved members complete a one-time photo ID verification after approval and before their first Members’ Social. Guests attending an open public DEIGHT Social don’t need membership or ID verification.
Members book and pay for each Members’ Social they choose to attend; nothing is included with membership. One membership covers every DEIGHT city. You can find more detail on membership and what makes DEIGHT different.
DEIGHT’s current programme is for heterosexual singles, ladies and gentlemen, with scope for different events in future.
START WITH THE LISTING, NOT THE PRESSURE
If you’ve been looking for alternatives to dating apps, a singles event can be a simple way to meet people in real life without the format of speed dating. Start with the age range, city and date. Choose the event that feels comfortable, then give yourself permission to see how the evening goes.
Across the Midlands, there are options in Nottingham, Birmingham, Leicester, Coventry and Derby. A room with people in a similar age group. A welcoming social setting. Conversation without a script.
That’s a good place to start.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Are DEIGHT singles events for people in their 40s and 50s?
Yes. DEIGHT is for singles over 30, with events designed around different age groups, including the 40s and 50s. Check each event listing because the age range varies.
Do I need membership to attend a DEIGHT Social?
No. DEIGHT Socials are public events open to guests and members. Membership is for access to private Members’ Socials.
Is the Nottingham event on 13 November specifically for the 40s and 50s?
Yes. The Friday Singles Social Mixer in Nottingham on Friday 13 November 2026 is listed for people in their 40s and 50s. It runs from 7:30pm to 10:00pm and costs £20. Tickets are coming soon; check the events calendar for updates.
Can I attend a singles mixer on my own?
Yes. You can attend without bringing a friend. The event is a social setting where people come to meet others, and there’s no requirement to arrive with a group.
Are DEIGHT events speed dating?
DEIGHT Socials are social mixers rather than forced speed-dating sessions. The emphasis is on a relaxed group atmosphere and natural conversation.
How much does a public DEIGHT Social cost?
A one-off public DEIGHT Social Event Pass is £20. Some Saturday Premium Experiences and Sunday Reset Socials may have different prices. Check the listing for the event you’re considering.
Where does DEIGHT run singles events?
DEIGHT runs events across the Midlands, including Nottingham, Birmingham, Leicester, Coventry and Derby. The available formats and dates vary by city, so check the events calendar for current listings.
What other 40s and 50s events are coming up?
Alongside the Nottingham mixer on 13 November, there is a Coventry mixer on 20 November and a Derby mixer on 27 November 2026, both for the 40s and 50s. Coventry and Derby venues are still to be confirmed. Check the events calendar for details.